Because not everyone is Elite

I have grown up knowing that the internet is a mine field for any spoilers and to avoid forums because of idiot americans letting them slip. Back when I was making my way through Alias, we were watching season 2 when they were on season 4, often letting slip things that they thought everyone knew.

But as these programmes have come from these countries we have not whined and moaned about it too much and juust dealt with it. Now times are changing with BBC America becoming big in America and more and more Americans are finding the wonders of our British programmes paid for by our TV licences and now every time I am online it is just a wash of moans that we get it first or “Why can’t it be shown at the same time!”


Because you idiots it is like us moaning every time there is a new Game of Thrones and moaning why you get it a day before, or having to wait 6 months for other programmes of yours. 

While I can see how the star of Sherlock, Benedict Cumberbatch, feels he is looking out for his US fans, he is just treating his home country with no love or respect as we will not have ownership or exclusivity of our own TV shows first, even if for a day.

While many will disagree it would be like us moaning that we should have the same fuel prices and therefore you having to put your prices up by about 1000% because we are all mopey. 

So for once, avoid the forums and the internet for a bit like we have to and get over yourselves (if you are american) and realise that this is what we have to put up with constantly. Now if it does stream in the UK and US at the same time I will complain because that is our money paying for it to be actually made and by george you should finally have to wait your pretty little socks for once and behave like a decent human being.

Sorry for the rant but the red wedding got spoiled for a lot of us Brits among other things so I have lost my sympathy for US TV watchers and internet surfers.



Post 100!

I have finally got up to post 100 of my blog! And it is about time! So to celebrate I present a pug with its tongue sticking out!



As you may or not know I was made redundant by my previous job managing communication projects at Exeter University Students’ Guild but now I have found out 4 months on that not only was I replaced a week after I was shown the door, but they broke the law how they did it too.

Based on British Law they have to consult with employees first and not shown the door straight away. For me I was called into my new line managers office and told that I was no longer needed but that they also were ending my contract sooner than intended. My things were collected from the office and I had to try and leave the building going through two other offices trying to avoid everyone after breaking into tears with the shock announcement. In some ways I saw it coming after I found a massive mistake made by one of the directors in terms of the departments budget on the Friday, and tried to get this highlighted as soon as possible to the right people to resolve this. This mistake was one made well before I was hired to manage a department after the previous Head of department stepped down and a new director starting above. I knew someone would have to be cut and it would probably be me but not till my contract was finished.

It turns out that all employers have to consult with you before they can make you redundant, rather than just show them the door and tell them to leave.

I was so upset because I never got to say good bye and some lazy arsed dick still has their job when they should have lot it back in December; instead I am shoved out the door after all my hard work and he stays to take the department further into debt.

But I have also found that even though I was made redundant, a role that is no longer needed, I was replaced by someone else as soon as they realised the new director couldn’t manage the department single handly like I had for the last 5 months. 

This temporary position has now it seems become permanent and I have had to move to Brighton after losing my job. 

It turns out that my role was needed, that they didn’t do it properly and now I have a crappy job, high stress and had to move out of my flat across the country to Brighton. Not only that but someone has their job even after doing things which else where would have been fired back in December, my predecessor was fired but given the grace of making it look like he found a job else where, while I suddenly disappeared off the map making it look like I had done something majorly wrong even though it was me that found someone elses mistake to get it corrected!

So what am I going to do? Probably nothing but after making me feel disgraced and upset I no longer am thinking of this place as well as I once did and could easily just blab about some rather damning facts about the “award winning” students’ union if anything else comes to light.

But for you, know your rights and check if you get shown the door and what to do. Know what your employer, prospective employer because if you don’t 4 months down the line you will find like me that you have been illegally screwed over by an organisation that aren’t as squeaky clean as you thought.

Does it ever end

I have now not worked for 4 months. Today is a very glum day for me because it is just a reminder of how long it has been and how rubbish I feel in still not finding a job. I know there are people out there who have not had a job in years with a friend of mine struggling to find anything for 3 years but as it goes on, the harder it gets to try and keep a smile or the idea of hope. 

Today there are so many young people trying to just get on the ladder that the bottom rungs of the ladder has too much competition while the top roles are pretty empty. 

What is worse is how my degree seems to mean nothing as my boyfriend gets up every morning to go to his high paid job having no qualifications what so ever! He doesn’t have any GCSEs, Alevels or a degree but earns more money than most people his age. In fact I only know of two people and they both got hand picked at uni for very high stressed jobs in fiance. 

So here I am getting over another rejection after an interview from a job I know I would have been incredible at and being reminded of how long I have been out of a job. 

What have I achieved in 4 months then? Well 6 interviews and over 150 applications or e-mails to companies and no job. I have managed to redesign my website, and lost all of my work for the last 2 years after my computer managed to corrupt my hard drive making updating my portfolio even harder.

I haven’t managed to achieve anything outside of my job hunt either as my life has just become the same week over and over again with the occasional family event or interview. I haven’t managed to do any paintings, make any jewellery or learn any new songs, but in fact lost some of my range due to lack of practice.

In fact the only successes I have had is turning 26 and moving to Brighton and they both don’t really have much to do with me.

So here I am at this moment having lost all of my drive and hope in this seemingly never ending search just to have a role in this world and ability to pay my own way through it.

I am even trying to just get together enough to go down stairs to check the post, go eat breakfast (though now it would be lunch) or leave this sofa but I have to some how. 

I know I am lucky to so many people out there that have been doing this for years, those that having nothing, those that are stressing with oppression, abuse, poverty, pain or the lose of a loved one yet it is so hard finding drive any more.

Life hasn’t been easy though as you could easily use me and my family as the basis for Eastenders for the next 10 years. 

So what now? No idea but I guess the first thing is to check if my amazon packages have arrived (and I hope something has as that would be a good way to cheer me up) and then start cleaning the flat. 


So you are looking for the perfect gift for someone? Don’t know what to get? I think the more important question should be what not to get first!

As someone who has had her fair share of rubbish gifts I hopefully can give you a few ideas of what to avoid when finding a lovely girl a present!

  1. Don’t give just give money
    So you don’t know what to give and you need something really quick and easy! Whatever you do don’t give money as it shows no thought or feeling behind your present.Even when they have requested just money (say for a wedding, holiday, car or house), it is always nice to get something heartfelt too! It doesn’t have to cot much but it will make a difference! You could get some little accessory, cute stationary, or even just a little jar of hand picked pick and mix from the local sweet shop, but the added little thought will go the extra mile.
  2. Don’t ignore their wishlist
    This one seems really simple but people really do this! I have given a list of ideas, some being very cheap (I’m talking £2.50 in some cases) but these have often been ignored for stuff that I already have or don’t like because they thought they knew best.You can search for people’s wishlists these days on Amazon, Esty and Steam so there is no excuse to do a little hunting around! I am taking part in a gift exchange with Reddit once again but in the last one I was on sent me two things from my wishlist by my secret Santa which was amazing! If they can track down a stranger, it shouldn’t be too hard to look for someone you know.
  3. Don’t ignore an avoid or don’t want list
    This one may sound weird but my self and other people I know have written these in the past. These are written usually after people have had terrible experiences in the past and usually appears at the bottom of a wishlist.After having received 10 different milk chocolate (of which I have hated since I was 5) presents and sprays (of which I am highly allergic to) from the same person (my dad I should mention) didn’t go down well… nor did it the following years even with the “DON’T BUY ME” lists. In fact the response was “but Helen likes it”.

    If you ignore these lists and get something from these, even if it is a joke it can really make you look like a heartless idiot who doesn’t have a clue which leads on to…

  4. Don’t buy really hurtful or stupid joke presents
    This might work with your guy friends but girls generally want more loving gifts than jokey presents, especially if this is someone you love.I think the last time my dad brought my chocolate for Christmas it was intended as a joke after what he thought was over the top requests of no chocolate because I couldn’t enjoy it. He brought chocolate coins and quipped with “Maybe you can pay with them to get some thing nice” only to get a “Yes trade them for a thoughtful gift” and then a daughter not talking to him for the rest of the day. (Please note there was a history here and other aspects that made it worse).

    Girls don’t like being called fat, ugly or having their bad points pointed out as we are often striving for perfection…

  5. Don’t get the same thing every time
    So she likes a certain chocolate, flower or other thing… doesn’t mean she will want the same gift over and over again as that takes out all of the surprise. I know many people who get sick of chocolate as everyone buys them the same thing and end up with 10 Chocolate oranges sometimes to get through!Every year my mum gets my and my sister a random assortment of sweets and silly little gifts but they are never the same so while it is in the same vain, it is always exciting to see what random stuff she has found this time.
  6. Get something you want or someone else likes
    One of the biggest mistakes out there is this one, you should be thinking about your giftee and no one else. As previously mentioned I received presents I couldn’t eat and sprays I was allergic to because someone else they were gifting loved these. I even got orange shower gel (which I hate the smell of) because they were gifting the two of us together but only really buying for my cousin/step sister Helen.Many boyfriends have also made the big mistake of buying something that they want under the guise of giving it to their girlfriend. Your girlfriend will see through and you will just get in trouble! Not only that but because you gave it as a present, if things far apart she will get it not you!

    Many guys I know are always asking me what to get their girlfriends too, and while this seems like an incredible plan, it is not! While we all might seem to be into the same things, we all have our own tastes and interests and I am a prime example of this! I climb, video game and have an extensive Terry Pratchett collection compared to my sister who goes out clubbing, watches Sex in the City and reads 50 shades of Grey! There is only two exceptions, if they really are very similar in interests and taste or if they are very close friends with your giftee… then they may have discussed present ideas or might be able to find out secretly for you.

  7. Don’t just get the obvious
    Yes it is great to receive the item you really wanted but like with money it is nice to get a little thoughtful surprise with it too! It doesn’t even have to cost you much as one of the best presents I have had is a bunch of hand made paper roses!
  8. Don’t forget to wrap it
    Again one of the simple yet still forgotten rules, don’t forget to wrap it (or in most cases to buy the wrapping paper…)Some presents might be too big to wrap but there are always bows, blind folds and treasure hunts that can make it really feel fully thought through then “Close your eyes and put your hands out” can ever give.
  9. Don’t forget all the extras (aka batteries and accessories)
    Some presents might need batteries or other extras to make it fully functioning on the day you give it as there is nothing more annoying then getting a new gadget that you can’t use because something simple was forgotten! Don’t assume they will already have batteries! You can also make the gifting fun by giving the batteries first making them have to guess what they are for! And this leads nicely to our last point…
  10. Remember to have fun!
    Buying and giving presents should be fun and exciting! Years ago I brought my sister a lovely water feature during her Chi phase which needed batteries. knowing my sister she loves to open presents as soon as she can and always asks to open a present before lunch on Christmas, so I let her open one of her presents… the batteries! She couldn’t open anything else till the end of Lunch and ended up making the whole day memorable for everyone!I have also recently done a treasure hunt around a house with a pirate theme! It was a morning of silly sword fighting around the house and silly voices that we both got to enjoy!

    By having fun with themes, you can even give money in a fun way! My sister received about £100 once but it was remembered because the £20 notes were hidden and even wrapped around (with no selotape) little purple presents in a little purple box. When she figured out there was one and that it had all been purple to match the notes, you could see the glee and excitement in her face as she dove into find more notes.

As you can see, sometimes it is easier thinking about what not to do to get ideas and inspiration than trying to hunt for an idea out of the ethos.

I hope that helps and gives you a couple of great ideas!

I can’t remember how many times I have been to MCM now but I have been going for quite a few years now with my friend Tor. I remember meeting some amazing people, breaking world records and seeing some amazing panels yet this year is different.

Queues at MCM

This year I remember crowds, crowds, more crowds and more fun gossiping in the car park. That is right, there was more fun in just gossiping with my friends in the car park as it was possible to talk and not feel squished.

So with them increasing the size of the hall every year but the crowds flocking to this geek fest, what is the future of this once incredible event? Due to the crowds and the size you can’t go to talks and see all the stands in one day!

My Little Pony cosplay at MCM

Previous years there were the likes of Nick Frost, Simon Pegg, Matt Smith and David Tennant suddenly making an appearence but with the crowds it would be difficult for them to come without incident. I still love the idea of an event to go to with other geeks but no longer do you get to talk and meet so I think to SFX and wonder if this is the future?

After hearing that someone lost their eye to a sonic screwdriver last year due to two posing/dueling for photos and problems with safety, do I really want to be going somewhere that is less fun and more just a stressful shopping trip for all my geeky needs.

Will I just be stuck to buying my geeky stuff online and going to much smaller events?

Maybe! Or I’ll just stick with SFX weekender!

It has now been two months and I am still learning about the sordid underhanded world of job hunting. I am not a benefit “scounger” before you ask and nor have I been seeing that at all but I have been out of luck in trying to find my self a job in this crazy time.

The reason I say it is an underhanded sort of world is how there are many adverts out there for jobs that are not actually open to people like me, but for some role internally that they have to by law advertise. It makes it seem like there are double the jobs out there in this already job depleted time, making it more difficult for the real jobs and job seekers out there. 

Last week I applied for a job to Disney Interactive by e-mail as suggested in the advert only to find that my e-mail was deleted without being read. Thinking it might have been an accident on their part I sent it again only to find it deleted yet again. If they are trying to fill a position in their company they are going to fail at getting a great candidate if they delete the e-mail.

I know there are some companies that due to the number of applications have split applications in half and chucked half of them as those candidates were not “Lucky enough” but normally they have done some sort of collection of all applications first (just in case there were very few in the end)

So what do I think? That if employers are going to play the game then the government should play back, forcing them to interview at least 1 person outside of their organisation and making it completely and utterly fair for all candidates applying for a job.

Currently I feel discriminated by Disney, not based on any thing other than the fact that I currently do not work there. If it is an internal ad, keep it that way rather than dashing the hopes of job seekers and wasting their time by applying. 

It is you the tax payers that are paying for us down on our luck folks, so our time being spent on real jobs and chances is better for you and us if these false ads did not exist.

I could have easily been biased an hired a friend for a position years ago when I left a job. He was perfect for the role and was even the person who taught me the ropes of working there yet I still kept it completely and utterly fair to ensure that we really did have the best person for the role. And while we were right, there easily could have been someone better and there was even an argument among us on the panel of who to choose but he was still the best candidate for that role.

So what else is underhanded about this world, as many of you may feel like we have it easy and just sit around doing as we please. There are too many, from adverts up that have been closed, companies not getting back to you, to companies being rude when you show an interest.

I think the biggest issue though is the inconsistency of it all. My last job I was the Head of a department, running a team of 9 and even at one point 11 but now I am being told by some companies that I do not have enough experience to be an intern or junior, while other organisations tell me how I am over qualified for a Senior or middleweight designer. 

Recently I got the feedback from a Director role of how in any other circumstance I would have probably got the very high paid job, and yet currently the two jobs I am waiting to hear back from are both minimum wage as an intern and one of them is only two days a week!

Even in the interview for the intern position for two days a week I was put through the ringer of what I would be expected to do and even told that the job also would involve some voluntary work on top.

So there are companies out there that are taking advantage of desperate out of work folks who are desperate to be able to pay their bills and rent and others who aren’t giving us even a chance. Having spent spent 7.5 hours at work today you have achieved something and know that because of it, no matter what the job, you will have your paycheck at the end of it all. For me I have the same sort of day trying to search for anything that I can apply for,  filling out countless applications forms and writing too many cover letters and the chance of it amounting to anything is probably 0.01% because for the last three years since graduating I have gone from an admin assistant to a head of department through short contracts.

So tomorrow I will walk yet again to the job centre for my meeting only to probably be told to “get a job” and looked down on by all who see me go in or talk to me in there as I am seen as a lazy slouch who isn’t looking hard enough. Funny because I have probably done more than you today and will get nothing for it… Just saying!

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